Updated: Jan 17, 2021
How do you know it's your intuition? How do you tap into that part of yourself that knows the right course and action, and how do you trust yourself when you've made a mistake or been lead down the wrong path?
We can feel crushing disappointment when we repeat a pattern. Self-sabatoge, self-loathing, self-obsession... it's hard to break free from our habitual soothing or distraction techniques. But the repeat is an opportunity, not a punishment.
There are things we've done and the things we didn't do that can create regret or shame, but both experiences allow us to learn about ourselves. We can shake our heads at what we allowed in our lives when we didn't know we deserved more, but that pain was the exact reason we know better now. Sometimes you need to touch the hot stove more than once to get the lesson.
When I was caught in the repetitive cycle of undermining experiences I began to shift out of them by not abandoning myself.
The truth is, there is no such thing as the wrong path. Ask yourself, is there something valuable you learned by repeating this? Did you need the reminder your methods of coping aren't working? Are you starting to wake up to the idea that the story you hold onto isn't true?
Experience, trial and error is how we learn. Taking a good look in the mirror and making a change, without the promise of reward or release, is a good place to start.